WORDS HURT




The young girl did everything to please her mother. She picked up around the house, took the clothes off the clothesline, and swept and mopped the house. Yet, it seemed to always be the case that her mother found an opportunity to call her STUPID. The young girl still remembered this when she was an adult with children of her own.


Calling a child STUPID or using other unkind words with them can cause long-term difficulties. The child can feel unloved and unable to reach the parents' demands- Sometimes the child becomes sensitive to everything that parent says. She may compare it to what others say about her. The child can become quiet — or explode. She is never happy.


As adults and parents, we can protect our children from these awful problems by not attacking them with words. Don’t respond to a situation before stopping and thinking what to say that is kind. If you are extremely upset, go splash cold water on you face and cool off. Go outside and walk it off. Call a friend and talk, not about the child.


The child can talk to clergy, a friend, a relative, or a teacher about the problem. They should not hold it in.


Links


75 Words Parents Need to Erase from Their Vocabulary – ParentCircle

https://www.parentcircle.com/parents-need-to-erase-these-common-words-phrases-from-their-vocabulary/article


Words Can Hurt

https://filestore.scouting.org/filestore/pdf/words_hurt.pdf


13 Toxic Phrases You Should Absolutely Never Say to your Kids

https://www.yourtango.com/2016285157/13-toxic-phrases-you-should-absolutely-never-say-your-kid


What is a Toxic Mother… Sarah Fader

https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/teenagers/what-is-a-toxic-mother-and-how-does-she-affect-relationships/


Stronger for the Breaks – How to Heal From a Toxic Parent – Karen Young

https://www.heysigmund.com/toxic-parent/





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